Perhaps one of the most talked about movies of the year has been 50 Shades... women are going in masses to see this 'love story' and cannot seem to get enough. But can I be honest? I don't get it! When I see all this hype I cannot help but wonder what kind of message this is sending our daughters? Are we okay with telling them that this is how they should be treated? That THIS is romance? For me, it's certainly not.
But did you hear about the other movie that came out in theaters on Valentine's Day weekend 2015? This was a movie about good old fashioned romance- true romance... the kind we do want our daughter's to dream about. And it's coming to DVD TODAY, June 15!
A romantic-drama, OLD FASHIONED centers on Clay Walsh, a former frat boy who gives up his reckless carousing and now runs an antique shop in a small Midwestern college town. There, he has become notorious for his lofty and outdated theories on love and romance as well as for his devout belief in God. When Amber Hewson, a free-spirited young woman with a restless soul, drifts into the area and rents the apartment above his shop, she finds herself surprisingly drawn to his strong faith and noble ideas, which are new and intriguing to her. And Clay, though he tries to fight and deny it, simply cannot resist being attracted to her spontaneous and passionate embrace of life. Ultimately, Clay must step out from behind his relational theories and Amber must overcome her own fears and deep wounds as the two of them, together, attempt the impossible: an "old-fashioned" and God-honoring courtship in contemporary America.
What a drastic difference this is from most modern romantic movies, right? And a welcome change that is. So often in both the movies and in life, it seems as though people are jumping into the physical aspects of a relationship before figuring out if they really are compatible as a couple- before they really just have the chance to TALK.
As many may know, I met my husband on Myspace, while he was still deployed to Iraq. Certainly not what one would consider an 'old-fashioned' relationship! And yet in those few months where we spoke only via instant messages and over the phone, we had nothing to do but talk and truly get to know one another. There was no worry about getting dolled up and having the perfect date night, no need for small talk and no pressure to develop a physical relationship that we weren't ready for. All we could do was talk. I got to know him better in that short time than many couples who had been together much longer. Though our relationship-especially in the beginning- has been anything but ordinary, I truly think that it helped us grow closer, faster... which is perhaps why we were already planning a wedding before we had even laid eyes on each other.
And that's what Old-Fashioned is really about...its about taking the time to get to know someone before jumping into a physical relationship. It is about men respecting women both physically and emotionally, and women believing that they are worthy of that respect. Doesn't that sound like a GOOD thing? I, for one, am thrilled to see a movie that I can show my daughter and say, "THIS is romance, strive for THIS not Christian Grey." and a movie that I can show my son and say, "THIS is how you treat a woman."
But it's also a story about imperfect people, which I think is so important to see too. These are not people who have not lived or loved, these are people who have pasts, who are not 'pure', but who have learned and grown... who saw that perhaps there was a better way to find love.
Overall, I absolutely loved this movie, and highly encourage everyone to check it out for themselves. It is available on DVD now.
Official Website - http://www.oldfashionedmovie.com
Stay tuned for my thoughts on the novel by the same name, and devotional coming soon... and have the chance to enter to win ALL THREE!!